How-to-Be-Selfish
Don’t take me wrong, being kind is one of the best things you can do if you do it without the aim/sake of any profit. We should be kind for no reason.

But in this post, I want to talk about something different.

I want you to believe in that being a little bit selfish is beneficial for us. And in this post, I will talk about it.

So, before you start judging me, just wait and read this post. I am sure I will make my point clear to you and you too will start thinking in the way I think.
So, let’s dive into it.

How Being Selfish is Beneficial?


Have you ever been into a situation when someone asks you for a favor and you really don’t wanna do that work, but you’re so kind that you can’t deny their request and just agreed to do whatever they say?

Well didn’t know about you, but I personally have faced this situation in my past many times. I had a lot of my stuff to do, but the thing was I didn’t know how to say ‘NO’ to them. I thought they might get offended or will start to hate me if I didn’t do their job. So, what I do?

Yes! I simply just agreed to them and do whatever they ask.

I always think later that why I didn’t say NO to them, and I thought that I am so kind and maybe this was the reason. But let me tell you one thing.

This isn’t called being kind. This is called being fooled.

I just want to tell one thing. I am not going to teach you about social morals or your social responsibilities. I am here to tell you about the harsh truth of society and how you can live in this cruel world.

Here people are not as kind as you. They’ll use you and when their work gets done, they’ll eventually forget you. Believe me, I have faced this many time.

But again, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t help anyone or don’t be kind. I want you to be kind, but at the same time, I want you to know your value and your priorities.

You should set priorities in your life and should follow them strictly.

There’s nothing more important than yourself and you should be aware of it. Don’t let other downgrade your value and never let them control you.

Here’s an article that you should read How to Stop Saying YES When You Want to Say NO

How You Can Be Selfish?


Now again don’t get me wrong and be literally selfish. I mean selfish in a way that you’re able to say NO and being able to choose yourself first.

I have seen this many time and don’t wanna lie to you, I have faced this too that I just can’t say NO to someone.

For someone, saying no is not a big deal. But if you’re like me, then you can understand this feeling. Want to say NO, but our brain somehow managed us to say YES and we end up saying YES and then regret about it later.

Didn’t know anyone else faces this situation too or it’s just me! (After all, I think I am a little bit weird.)

So, now comes the question that how I can be this selfish that no one gets hurts by my actions/words and I still somehow manage to choose myself first.

Here are some things which I have done and still do, and which you can do too:

1. Speak Softly and Calmly.


Instead of just saying them NO harshly or you can say rudely. You can simply speak gently, softly and calmly to them.

You can explain to them why you can’t help them with their work but be kind in this process. You didn’t want to hurt them.

Tell them that you have your own personal issues/work to complete and that’s why you can’t help them now.

Here's an article that you should read: How to Stop Saying YES When You Want to Say NO

2. Say You’ll Help Them Later.


Say you’ll help them later, but you should really mean it. I have seen many people saying that they’ll help other later, but don’t do anything.

Don’t be like them and if you say it, then you should really mean it.

3. Know Your Priorities.


You should set priorities in your life and believe me your own self should be on the top of your list. Chose you and your goals over everything, that’s how you can succeed and can become happy here.

Don't let others distract you from your way to success. There'll be many distractions in your way, all you have to do is to follow your goals and don't choose anyone or anything over your goals.

Here's an article that you should read: 7 Easy Ways to Stay Away from Distractions

Conclusion:


By saying being selfish I don’t literally mean that go and be selfish. Ignore every other person and just do your own work. NO!

By being selfish I mean to know about your priorities and when you should say NO to others. Most times you can only be happy by choosing yourself over anything else and that is what you have to understand.

“If you really want to be happy, you need to be a little bit selfish.” -Manish Kumar



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Should-you-care-about-others-opinion

One question that keeps hitting my mind is, should I care about what others are saying about me or my work? I mean should I care about their opinions?

Well, didn’t know about you, but I personally didn’t really care about others opinions. I mean unless they are going to benefit me.

If they say me you should stop this blogging thing and should focus on your studies and try to get a job, I just completely ignore them. They really didn’t have any idea about what I am doing and how’s it going to help me in the future. I have a dream, which no one believes and see, but only me.

If you’re too like me and have a dream which you want to achieve but your surroundings keep saying that you should stop it and focus on something else, then this post is for you. You’ll be going to get an idea about what you should do in this situation and what is going to be best for you.

So, let’s talk about the first thing first,

Should you listen to their opinions?


Well, it depends. I mean if they’re saying something that’ll be going to benefit you, then keep it in mind. There’s nothing wrong in listening to someone else opinion. You should keep your ego by side and should listen to them.

But if they’re saying something bullshit like stop this work and focus on your studies or something else, then here’s a thing, ‘just completely ignore them.’

If you have got a dream, and you think it has a great future, then don’t listen to anyone in this world. Just focus on your dreams and keep working consistently. There should be only one voice, that is yours.

It doesn’t matter how big your dream is. You have got the power to achieve that dream, and you have to believe it. There’s nothing impossible in this world if you wanna achieve your dream, then go for it. Don’t listen to anybody who is telling you to stop.

Misconception about success.


There’s always been a misconception in our surroundings that we only get succeed by studying in college or universities. From the very beginning, they teach us that if we want to succeed in life, then we have to study and have to get good grades.

Well, I didn’t say that studying is a bad thing, in fact, I love studying. But the thing is those school grades won’t make us successful, but our abilities and our skills make us successful.

This word ‘success’ means different to every other individual. For you, it may be to get a good stable job, for your brother it may be to be a great singer, and for me, it is to be a great entrepreneur and leave a legacy behind.

So, if you just want a good job, then studying should be your priority, but if you’re like me, then you’ll know that there’s so much knowledge outside from those school books and we have to explore that.

I just want to break this misconception that success only can get from good grades.

Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and so on. Do you know all these millionaires are college dropouts and haven’t graduated from the college!

So, there’s no point telling others that success can only be achieved by good grades.

Is your dream worth it?


There’s no point in ignoring the whole world if your dream is not worth it. I mean if your dream won’t going to make a living for you, then what’s the point of ignoring others?

I mean just be practical here. You have to make money if you want to live. So, if your dream is not going to make a living out for you, then you should listen to what others are saying.

Now don’t get me wrong, but I am just being real with you. I don’t want you to starve. So, it’s better you should listen to what others are saying and do something which will be going to benefit you financially.

You can always achieve your dream, but keep it in mind, that dream should be worth your hard work and ignorance.

“Dreams are not achieved by hard work only. But it takes consistency, ignorance, and failures too.” -Manish Kumar

Keep your ego on a side.

I saw many people who just don’t listen to what others are saying just because of their ego. Just because they don’t want someone to guide them. I mean what’s the point of it? What are you trying to show to the world?

Ego, attitude all these things won’t give you anything, except people’s hate. Self-respect is must, but ego is another thing. You should know the difference between these two.

There’s nothing wrong or to be ashamed if someone teaches you something. It doesn’t matter if they’re elder from you or are younger from you. We just can’t know all the things and there’s nothing wrong in being taught by a younger person.

So, if you’re one of them who ignore others opinion just because they’re younger or you just have some ego issues, then sorry to say my friend, but you’ll never going to grow. We grow by making mistakes and learning from them. But if you’re one of them who don’t want to be seen as a failure then you’ll never be going to grow.

“Winner and losers both fail. It’s just winners who learn from his mistakes and try again.”

Conclusion:

So, in short, you should listen to others if they’re right. And now don’t say that how can I find out that how will I know that if they are right or wrong!

If you think your dreams are worth ignorance, then go for it. But if your dreams are not worth it, then its time to put a full stop and you should listen to what are sayings.

And you should never ignore others just because you have some ego issues. Be a kind person, and if you’re wrong then admit it and listen to what are sayings.


Hope you like it. Please do share it with someone who needs to read this. And let me know in the comment section below do you listen to other’s opinions?


One-Life-No-Regrets

Didn’t know about you, but I can’t just live in regrets. I mean there is just only one life and tell me one thing, do you want to live your whole life in some regrets?

For me, it’s a big fuckin NO.

I think that’s one of a reason why I keep hustling all the time because in my late 30’s or 40’s I don’t wanna live in regrets. I want to achieve something big and for it, I will do whatever it takes.

So, in today’s post, I will talk about this topic and will be going to share my opinions.

Live in reality.


Just tell me one thing, do you believe that you’ll get another life? Do you think that you’ll get another chance?

Hell no!

There’s just only one life and you have to realize it. I mean if you wanna be a singer, go for it. If you wanna be a painter, go for it. But don’t just let your dreams for next day. The irony of life is that death is unpredictable. It may seem a little bit rude or harsh to you, but this is true. I mean no one can predict their death or future.

Talking about myself, I wanna be a blogger and an entrepreneur, so I am working for it now. I can’t just let this work for tomorrow or on some other day because I know or you can say realize that I can be dead at any moment.

Well, it’s the harsh truth of life and you’ve to realize it. If you wanna do something, do it now. There’s nothing like tomorrow or the next day. There’s just only today.

Living in Regrets.


I would rather want to live in the failure, instead of living in the regrets of not even trying. I mean if I want to do something, if I want to achieve something, I will work or it. It may seem impossible to you, but for me, it’s my dream and I will do whatever it takes to achieve it.

If you say that hey Manish! Just forget about it, you can’t achieve it. Well, fuck you. I didn’t ask for your opinion. I have belief in myself, and that's what you needed too.

Well, just think about it. You sitting on a chair in your late 30’s or 40’s, thinking about all those opportunities you missed when you were young. Do you really wanna spend the rest of your life in that fuckin regret?

If not, then do something about it.

Get out from your comfort zone and work hard. I know a comfort zone is a beautiful place and you want to play safe, but listen! Nothing ever grows in the comfort zone and if you want to achieve something big, then you have to get out from your safe zone. You have to take the risk.

“Take the risk, that’s where legends are made.”

Keep it in mind, “in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take.”


There’s only one fuckin life. Do something about it, my friend.
top-7-anime-quotes

Didn’t know about you, but I am personally a big fan of anime. To those who didn’t know what the hell is anime, “it is a style of Japanese film and television animation.”

My personal favorite anime shows are Naruto, Dragon Ball Z, Pokémon and so on. (Btw what’s your favorite anime show, let me know in the comment section below.)

So, today in this post, I will write top 7 anime quotes which I personally loved most.

So, let’s get started:

(Note: I do not own any of these images. All the credits are given to their respective owner.)

1. Hard work is worthless.

Naruto-Uzumaki-Quote

“Hard work is worthless for those that don’t believe in themselves.” -Naruto

2. When they lose faith.

Itachi-Uchiha-Quote

“People’s lives don’t end when they die. It ends when they lose faith.” -Itachi Uchiha

3. Achieve revenge.

Sakura-Naruto-Quote

“Even if you achieve your revenge, nothing will change.” -Sakura

4. Brainless monkey.

Goku-Quote

“I would rather be a brainless monkey than a heartless monster.” -Goku

5. The true power of us.

Saitama-One-Punch-Man-Quote

“True power of us human beings is that we can change ourselves on our own.” -Saitama (One-Punch Man)

6. Change your destiny.

Naruto-Uzumaki-Quote

“If you don’t like your destiny, don’t accept it. Instead, have the courage to change it the way you want it to be.” -Naruto Uzumaki

7. I’m a failure.

Izuku-Midoriya-Quote

“Sometimes I do feel like I’m a failure. Like there’s no hope for me. But even so, I’m not gonna give up. Ever!” -Izuku Midoriya




So, what’s your favorite anime quote? Comment down below.
Short-Inspirational-Quotes-Sayings

Well, if you have followed me on Instagram (that you should do) I am a huge fan of inspirational quotes and sayings. In fact, in my Instagram account, I post them too.
(Follow me on Instagram at @notmanishkumar)

So, I thought why shouldn’t I make a sperate post on my blog writing all my personal favourite quotes and sayings.

By the way, if you don’t wanna read them here, I have made a YouTube video too. You can check it out from here:

So, here are my 15 personal favourite short quotes and sayings:

1. You Won’t Give Up

“It doesn't matter how hard it gets. Promise me, you won't give up.”

2. Never Trust Your Fears

“Never trust your fears, they don't know your struggle.”

3. Do It with Passion

“Do it with passion, or not at all.”

4. Believe in Yourself

“Believe in yourself, even when no one else does.”

5. Change You

“If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you.”

6. Best Days of Your Life

“You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.”

7. Clear Vision of Goal

“When you have a clear vision of your goal, it's easier to take the first step toward it.”

8. Push Yourself

“You will never know your limits unless you push yourself to them.”

9. Change Your Life

“Every day is a chance to change your life.”

10. Be Unstoppable

“Believe in yourself and you will be unstoppable.”

11. You May Wish

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”

12. Ordinary and Extraordinary

“The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.”

13. Be Somebody

“Be somebody nobody thought you could be.”

14. Slow Process

“It's a slow process, but quitting won't speed it up.”

15. Remember that Guy

“Remember that guy who gave up? Neither does anybody else.”



So, which quote do you like most from these? Let me know in the comment section below. And if you like it, then do share it with your friends and family. 😊
How-to-deal-with-anger

“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” -Laurence J. Peter

We live in an era where we are surrounded by people whose only motive is to say bad about us or to bring us down. So, in this era, it’s really easy to get angry and lost our peace of mind.

But it doesn’t mean that you should forget about the peace of mind and just get angry at a thing which has nothing to do with your life and with your goals.

Well, I personally believe that if it doesn’t help me to achieve my goals, then it’s none of my business. And I suggest you too to think in this way.

I mean you should only care about those things which are going to benefit you in some way. Whether it’s for achieving your goals or for self-improvement.

So, in this post, I will talk about how you can deal with anger in just 5 minutes.

So, let’s get started:

1. Take deep and long breaths.


Scientists have proved it that in the moment of anger if a person takes deep, long breaths, he will more likely to lose his anger/temper in a very short period of time.

Now, it’s time for you to make this your habit. Whenever you feel anger, instead of just spitting out everything that you have to regret later, take deep breaths and try to calm down.

“Believe me, anger only going to give you scars that you have to regret later.”

So, be wise and instead of getting angry, seek the peace of mind and try to calm down in every situation of life.

2. Distract yourself.


This is the one thing that I do most of the times. Whenever I get angry or feel tensed. I simply distract myself in some other kinda work or things. Like, I go on YouTube and start watching videos.

In this way, I calm down myself and keep myself away from all the anger and negativity and maintain my peace of mind.

You should try this thing out. Whenever you feel anger, try to distract yourself. There are tons of ways in which you can distract yourself away from the anger. Like, you can listen to your favorite songs, you can read your favorite book, you can watch your favorite TV show or just like me you can watch videos on YouTube.

It all depends upon you, how you distract yourself.

3.  Get out and go for a walk.


In the moment of anger, you can also try this out. Get out of that environment and go for a walk outside. It will surely help you to understand your anger and will also help you to overcome or you can say deal with it.

In this walk, think about all those things which have made you angry and think are those things really matter to you?

I believe it will surely help you to release your anger and to maintain your peace of mind.
Now, it depends upon you, what you choose. Whether you want to live an anger-free life, or just a life full of anger. Whether you want to maintain your peace of mind or just want to be angry and depressed. Whether you want to keep the things running or want to regret them later.

It all depends upon you, what you choose.


So, this is it. Let me know in the comment section below how these tips work for you.  And do share it if you like it.😊